How we chose the wrong home
We finally found a long-term rental in our budget.
- it had the # of bedrooms we wanted and my mother-in-law would have her own space
- it gave Shannon the shortest possible commute to work (still 40 minutes!)
- there was a beautiful community pool
- it was fun seeing (most of) the wildlife – monkeys, iguanas, snakes, scorpions, bats, tarantulas, geckos, etc
- we were too isolated from others – which would have been great for vacation, but not for long term living
- there was only one other family with kids nearby, and we only saw them twice the whole time we lived there
- we had a burglary and every few nights, there were burglary attempts nearby
Where did we go wrong?
We forgot what was actually important.
We focused on the technical stuff like a short commute, square footage, # of bedrooms, etc. and lost focus of how actually living in this home would fit in with our family’s values and mission.
Instead of looking for a home with x square feet, we should have focused more on whether or not we’d have opportunities to build relationships with neighbors, because we value community.
Instead of looking for a home with a nice kitchen, we should have focused more on the opportunity for 2-year-old Grace to have kids nearby that she could play with, because we want to teach Grace how to be a good friend.
- where we’ve been building friendships with neighbors that we hope will continue for many years
- where we can walk or bike anywhere
- where Grace has friends to play with
- where we can ride bikes to a thriving church that is focused on serving the community
At some point, we’ll move again.